Peer pressure is something we most often associate with adolescents, and it looks different as children mature and development progresses. There may be pressure to be silly in the cafeteria despite the rules, pressure to cheat, to make fun of someone, join a sports team, or dress a certain way. Children are taught ways to navigate peer pressure as they learn the skill sets to problem solve and become confident in being autonomous.
Peer pressure between adults, on the other hand, tends to be overlooked or brushed off. Adults also experience pressure to behave or believe a certain way. The pressure to fit in with a group or make decisions can grow exponentially as an adult. The stakes can seem significantly higher. For example, an adult may feel pressured to think or behave a certain way at work for fear of losing their job.
The question remains the same: am I being asked to do something that conflicts with my end goal, beliefs, values, or morals?
Experiencing or giving in to peer pressure can potentially be detrimental to our emotional health. It can elicit feelings of guilt, shame, or disappointment. Feeling anxious about interactions or the decisions we make can cause sleeplessness, difficulties concentrating, or decreased self-esteem, leading to isolation and withdrawal.
How can you navigate peer pressure as an adult?
- Embrace your true self: Take time to identify and embrace your values, beliefs, and aspirations. When you’re firmly rooted in who you are, making choices that truly resonate with you becomes second nature, helping you stand firm against outside pressures.
- Cultivate your inner circle: Surround yourself with people who respect your individuality and don’t push you to conform to their desires or expectations. It’s not about how many people are in your circle, but the quality of those relationships.
- Draw your personal boundaries: Anticipate situations where you might face peer pressure and practice ways to maintain your ground. Whether it’s a rehearsed response or setting clear limits on what you’re willing to tolerate, protecting your personal space helps you stay true to your journey
While we generally seek out and connect with those who share our values and interests, it’s important to remember that we can’t always control the dynamics of every situation or relationship. Trust in your self-awareness and remember that you are your own strongest advocate. Ultimately, you are the one in charge of your choices and direction.
Resources:
https://www.thewatsoninstitute.org/resource/i-can-handle-peer-pressure/
https://www.uwhealth.org/news/dealing-with-peer-pressure-when-youre-an-adult